How to Embrace God’s Call to be Fathers to the Fatherless – with Roger Cooke. Legacy Podcast S3E3

How to Embrace God’s Call to be Fathers to the Fatherless – with Roger Cooke. Legacy Podcast S3E3

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How to Embrace God’s Call to be Fathers to the Fatherless – with Roger Cooke. S3E3

Would you consider fostering? 

Every 15 minutes, a child comes into care in the UK. What can we, as the church, do to help? We were delighted to have Roger Cooke, from Home for Good, on the Legacy Podcast. Roger provides a depth of insight which we (Stephen and Andy) found both inspiring and helpful in considering if fostering is something our families can do.

Join us. 

Chapters

0:00 – 7:45 Introductions
7:45 – 22:35 Why should we care?
22:35 – 35:32 What does it take?
35:32 – 42:46 Commissioning for Every Father

Today’s Guest
Roger Cooke is the right man to help us consider fostering and adoption. He leads the work of Home for Good, who believe we all have a part to play in ensuring every child and young person has the home they need. They work to mobilise the Church in the UK to respond to the needs of children in care. Find out more at homeforgood.org.uk 

Links
Legacy 
Home for Good

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Legacy Podcast Hosts

Andy Lamberton is the director of Legacy. He goes to the same church his parents, grandparents, great and great great-grandparents went to. Married to Debbie, they are raising their four children in Donegal with ice-pops for dessert most days. Author of Letters for Exiles: Faithful Living in a Faithless World.

Stephen Mullan directs the work of Dreamscheme Northern Ireland, a youth work charity that provides support and opportunities to young people growing up in housing estates. He also writes on the subject of youth via his newsletter Rethinking Youth. Stephen is married to Sharon and has two young children.

Stephen Mullan

How to Help Your Children Slow Down, with Kent Evans. Legacy Podcast S3E2

How to Help Your Children Slow Down, with Kent Evans. Legacy Podcast S3E2

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How to Help Your Children Slow Down

Life is a million miles an hour. Is your home a haven or do you live in a hurried house? Little of what’s important happens in a rush. 

Join Andy Lamberton as he speaks with Kent Evans about helping our children slow down.

Chapters

  • 0:00 – Introduction
  • 3:30 – Helping our children slow down
  • 24:00 – Becoming disciple-making dads

This is the second of our ‘How To’ series. Up next: How to Embrace God’s Call to be Fathers to the Fatherless, with Roger Cooke. 

Guest:
Kent Evans is executive director of Manhood Journey, and along with his wife, April, has not one, not two, not three, not four, but five sons. Author of Manhood Journey and Wise Guys

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Legacy Podcast Hosts

Andy Lamberton is the director of Legacy. He goes to the same church his parents, grandparents, great and great great-grandparents went to. Married to Debbie, they are raising their four children in Donegal with ice-pops for dessert most days. Author of Letters for Exiles: Faithful Living in a Faithless World.

Stephen Mullan directs the work of Dreamscheme Northern Ireland, a youth work charity that provides support and opportunities to young people growing up in housing estates. He also writes on the subject of youth via his newsletter Rethinking Youth. Stephen is married to Sharon and has two young children.

Stephen Mullan

How to Open the Bible with Your Children, with Chase Replogle. Legacy Podcast S3E1

How to Open the Bible with Your Children, with Chase Replogle. Legacy Podcast S3E1

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How to Open the Bible with Your Children

Imagine getting to sit in as someone else opens the Bible with their children.

Big thanks to Chase Replogle for giving us the opportunity to do just that with his new podcast. Let’s Talk Bible for Kids (and parents). Join Andy Lamberton as he interviews Chase about family devotions, opening the Bible with our family and growing in Christlikeness as a man.

Our Guest
Chase Replogle is the pastor of Bent Oak Church in Springfield, Missouri. Host of two podcasts – the Let’s Talk Bible podcast for kids (and parents) and the Pastor Writer Podcast, on reading, writing and the Christian life. He is author of The 5 Masculine Instincts and enjoys being outdoors with his wife and two kids, sailing, playing the guitar (badly), and quail hunting with his bird dog Millie.”

Chapters
0:00 – 2:50 Introductions
2:50 – 18:00 Opening the Bible with our children
18:00 – 31:53 The 5 Masculine Instincts

Links: 

This is the first in our ‘How To’ series. Up next: How to Help Your Children Slow Down, with Kent Evans.

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Would your church/men’s group be interested in hosting a live recording of the Legacy Podcast? It’d be craic! Send me an email – andy@legacyfathers.org

Legacy Podcast Hosts

Andy Lamberton is the director of Legacy. He goes to the same church his parents, grandparents, great and great great-grandparents went to. Married to Debbie, they are raising their four children in Donegal with ice-pops for dessert most days. Author of Letters for Exiles: Faithful Living in a Faithless World.

Stephen Mullan directs the work of Dreamscheme Northern Ireland, a youth work charity that provides support and opportunities to young people growing up in housing estates. He also writes on the subject of youth via his newsletter Rethinking Youth. Stephen is married to Sharon and has two young children.

Stephen Mullan

“And he will turn the hearts of fathers” with Willie Patterson

“And he will turn the hearts of fathers” with Willie Patterson

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“And he will turn the hearts of fathers”

We had one episode on failing as a father. But what about deep failure?
This is a heavy conversation.

The last verses of the Old Testament, Malachi 4:5-6 says,

“Behold, I will send you Elijah the prophet before the great and awesome day of the Lord comes. And he will turn the hearts of fathers to their children and the hearts of children to their fathers, lest I come and strike the land with a decree of utter destruction.”

Join us as we take a deep dive into this verse, and speak to a man with extensive experience in helping families who have experienced profound hurt find healing and, where possible, restoration.

Willie was the Assistant Director for ‘Family and Child Care’, and then took early retirement to set up Family Spectrum in 2004.

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We’re taking suggestions for season 3, a ‘How to’ series. – What topics do you think we need to cover to help us fathers disciple our children well? Send me an email – andy@legacyfathers.org

Andy Lamberton is the director of Legacy. He goes to the same church his parents, grandparents, great and great great-grandparents went to. Married to Debbie, they are raising their four children in Donegal with ice-pops for dessert most days. Author of Letters for Exiles: Faithful Living in a Faithless World.

Stephen Mullan directs the work of Dreamscheme Northern Ireland, a youth work charity that provides support and opportunities to young people growing up in housing estates. He also writes on the subject of youth via his newsletter Rethinking Youth. Stephen is married to Sharon and has two young children.

Stephen Mullan

The Impact of a Father. Alf Thompson’s Story

The Impact of a Father. Alf Thompson’s Story

“Something I could never argue with, was the congruance of their lives. They lived their faith. I could never call them hypocrites. And I probably would of liked to!”
Join Andy Lamberton as he invites Alf Thompson to share his story.

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The Impact of a Father. Alf Thompson’s Story

If your children are walking away from faith, this episode is for you.
Alfred Thompson shares with us about the impact of his father.

As they were packing the boot of their car, John Thompson simply invited his grown-up son to read the Gospel of Mark with him. This became the turning point of Alf’s life.

Our thanks to Alf for sharing his story with us and honouring his father.

Full 30min conversation on the Legacy Podcast.

Fathers, never underestimate the power of re-inviting your children back into faith in Jesus.

Standing on grace,
Andy

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We’re taking suggestions for season 3, a ‘How to’ series. – What topics do you think we need to cover to help us fathers disciple our children well? Send me an email – andy@legacyfathers.org

Andy Lamberton is the director of Legacy. He goes to the same church his parents, grandparents, great and great great-grandparents went to. Married to Debbie, they are raising their four children in Donegal with ice-pops for dessert most days. Author of Letters for Exiles: Faithful Living in a Faithless World.

Stephen Mullan directs the work of Dreamscheme Northern Ireland, a youth work charity that provides support and opportunities to young people growing up in housing estates. He also writes on the subject of youth via his newsletter Rethinking Youth. Stephen is married to Sharon and has two young children.

Stephen Mullan

Meet Andy and Stephen. Legacy Podcast

Meet Andy and Stephen. Legacy Podcast

“We want to be fathers who disciple our children. And we want to see our churches bulging with thriving families.”
Join Andy and Stephen as they introduce themselves, and Legacy

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Meet Andy and Stephen

Have you ever wondered who Andy and Stephen are? What is their story? 
Meet the hosts of the Legacy podcast.

0:00 – 16:20 – Meet Stephen
16:20 – 28:05 – Meet Andy
28:05 – 36:44 – Legacy’s Story

Between Series 2 and Series 3, we’ve got three solo episodes.

  1. Meet Andy and Stephen
  2. The impact of a father – Alf Thompson’s story
  3. “And he will turn the hearts of fathers” with Willie Paterson 

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We’re taking suggestions for season 3, a ‘How to’ series. – What topics do you think we need to cover to help us fathers disciple our children well? Send me an email – andy@legacyfathers.org

Andy Lamberton is the director of Legacy. He goes to the same church his parents, grandparents, great and great great-grandparents went to. Married to Debbie, they are raising their four children in Donegal with ice-pops for dessert most days. Author of Letters for Exiles: Faithful Living in a Faithless World.

Stephen Mullan directs the work of Dreamscheme Northern Ireland, a youth work charity that provides support and opportunities to young people growing up in housing estates. He also writes on the subject of youth via his newsletter Rethinking Youth. Stephen is married to Sharon and has two young children.

Stephen Mullan

Raising Daughters Today – Legacy Podcast S2E3

Raising Daughters Today – Legacy Podcast S2E3

“To have a father who delights in knowing and loving them is one of the greatest blessings any girl can have.”
In the third and final ‘square-table’ conversation, Andy and Stephen are joined by Jonny McKane and Evan Reid, to talk about raising daughters today.

https://open.spotify.com/episode/1RlSYXHJSn8apUDp4htkpx?si=f20c97c935744b2c

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Raising Daughters Today – Round Table

Join us on the Legacy Podcast as we are joined by Jonny McKane and Evan Reid. Two normal fathers who love their daughters well. I was ministered to by these men as we recorded. Listening back, the coals of my heart are stoked afresh. Stephen and I were both taken by their wisdom. We hope you enjoy it.

It’s the third and final round table of Season Two:

  1. Disciple Making Fathers
  2. Raising Sons Today
  3. Raising Daughters Today

In this conversation we talk about:

  • The joys of being a father to a daughter
  • How we can exasperate them
  • Hopes and fears as your daughter grows from girl to woman
  • How a father-daughter relationship changes over time
  • Journeying with the emotions of your daughter
  • Not being scared to speak
  • Cherishing her now while preparing her for the future

Reflection from Stephen Mullan

We can sometimes fight against the reality that our daughters will one day become women and will leave home. As Andy says near the end of this episode: “I don’t want my daughter to change!”

Who relates? I know I want my one and half year old daughter to forever stay small, cute and slightly squidgy!

At the heart of this feeling is a mix of love and joy. Yet, what I learned in this conversation was that the loving, joyful relationship between a father and his daughter is foundational and formative in her journey to womanhood.

Of course, there is much we need to think about as we raise our girls (and we cover a lot in this episode), but never underestimate the place of joy.

To have a father who delights in knowing and loving them is one of the greatest blessings any girl can have.

Two Songs for fathers with daughters

  1. Be kind to yourself – by Andrew Peterson
    A song from a father to a teenage daughter.
    I challenge any father to watch this video and have dry eyes at the end.
    V2

    ”I know it’s hard to hear it when the anger in your spirit is pointed like an arrow to your chest.
    When the voices in your mind are anything but kind, and you can’t believe your father knows best.
    I love you just the way that you are, I love the way He made your precious heart.
    Be kind to yourself”
  2. Banks – By NEEDTOBREATHE
    A song about caring without controlling.
    Chorus:
    ”I want to hold you close, but never hold you back.
    Like the banks of a river”

 

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We’re taking suggestions for season 3 – What topics do you think we need to cover to help us fathers disciple our children well? send me an email – andy@legacyfathers.org

Andy Lamberton is the director of Legacy. He goes to the same church his parents, grandparents, great and great great-grandparents went to. Married to Debbie, they are raising their four children in Donegal with ice-pops for dessert most days. Author of Letters for Exiles: Faithful Living in a Faithless World.

Stephen Mullan directs the work of Dreamscheme Northern Ireland, a youth work charity that provides support and opportunities to young people growing up in housing estates. He also writes on the subject of youth via his newsletter Rethinking Youth. Stephen is married to Sharon and has two young children.

Stephen Mullan

Raising Daughters Today – Legacy Podcast S2E3

Raising Sons Today – Legacy Podcast S2E2

“Fatherhood is a journey punctuated by moments”. Paul Paynter

Join us on the Legacy Podcast as we are joined by four intentional fathers David McGinty, David Penney, Paul Paynter, Paul Decock as we have a round table on Raising Sons Today. Stephen and I found it a rich conversation.

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Raising Sons Today – Round Table

If someone famous tweeted the book of Proverbs verse by verse (a father’s advice to his son), how do you think it would be received in today’s world?
My gut… I think the world is starving for wholesome, tested wisdom. And I wonder if Christianity has more to say on this than we let on.

#toxicmasculinity has 2.3 billion views on TikTok. With a whole variety of activities being deemed “toxic”. Some of these posts are just boyish behaviour (the hashtag being something of a joke). Some are abhorrent. TikTok, however, has added its own caption, “It must end now ☢️💪❌” on any post that includes the hashtag. So is everything manly toxic?

It’s a confusing time for boys to become men.

Fathers, we are one of the only sane voices, who can guide our sons into adulthood.

In the introduction to The Intentional Father by Jon Tyson he says:

Right now, it’s normal to entrust your son’s development to the school system or sports team. It’s normal to entrust your son’s discipleship to a youth pastor. It’s normal to just “wing it”.

But what if there was a new normal?

What if it was normal for fathers to put their foot down and say, “I’m not sitting on the sidelines for another day of my son’s life.”? What if it was normal for fathers to step up and play the primary role in their son’s spiritual formation? What if it was normal to be passionate about getting it right and unwilling to let the world raise our sons?

Challenge – Think of your son/s and skim-read the first seven chapters of Proverbs. Then pray.

Podcast

Join us for our second round table for Season Two:

  1. Disciple Making Fathers – Round Table
  2. Raising Sons Today – Round Table
  3. Raising Daughters Today – Round Table

This is a wild ride and we talk about:

  • raising sons in the digital world
  • lies and honesty
  • dangers and duties
  • seizing moments
  • vision, intention and means ‘VIM’
  • affection, authority and atmosphere
  • prioritising worship
  • loving your wife
  • the thousand-mile stare
  • what boys need
  • modelling faith
  • challenging boys
  • should I give my son a phone?
  • what’s the difference between raising a son or a daughter
  • words for a father whose son has rebelled

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We’re taking suggestions for season 3 – What topics do you think we need to cover to help us fathers disciple our children well? send me an email – andy@legacyfathers.org

Andy Lamberton is the director of Legacy. He goes to the same church his parents, grandparents and great-grandparents went to. Married to Debbie, they are raising their four children in Donegal with ice-pops for dessert most days. Author of Letters for Exiles: Faithful Living in a Faithless World.

Raising Daughters Today – Legacy Podcast S2E3

Disciple Making Fathers – Legacy Podcast S2E1

“Disciple-makers are first of all disciples. They are ordinary people like my mum and dad. My mum was a disciple of Jesus, carefully disguised as a care home assistant. My dad, a caretaker at a primary school.”

Jim Brown, Chris Agnew and Peter Munce kick off our first round table of season 2. With Andy Lamberton and Stephen Mullan.

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Disciple Making Fathers – Round Table

I wonder sometimes if those who have figured out algorithms will have a bigger influence on our children than those who have figured out life. But not when I see fathers and mothers being intentional.

Men, we need to take, with intentionality, our role to be disciple makers in the home. Our children need us to step up, and anyway, what a joy to introduce those we love to life in all its fullness. 

We’re cheering you on!

Challenge

This episode finishes by asking: what do you want your children to know by age 18?

  • That God loves them deeply?
  • That home is somewhere they can always return to?
  • That they know others in the body of Christ?

Could you write down (with your wife/family) 5 things you would like your children to know before they turn 18?

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We’re taking suggestions for season 3 – What topics do you think we need to cover to help us fathers disciple our children well? send me an email – andy@legacyfathers.org

Andy Lamberton is the director of Legacy. He goes to the same church his parents, grandparents and great-grandparents went to. Married to Debbie, they are raising their four children in Donegal with ice-pops for dessert most days. Author of Letters for Exiles: Faithful Living in a Faithless World.

Raising Kids for Christ in a Confusing World with Pete Wright. Legacy Podcast S1E6

Raising Kids for Christ in a Confusing World with Pete Wright. Legacy Podcast S1E6

“The next twenty years will be marked by confusion. The greatest gift we can give our children is clarity.”

Join co-hosts Andy Lamberton and Stephen Mullan as they chat with Pete Wright from Growing Young Disciples about Raising Kids for Christ in a Confusion World.

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Raising Kids for Christ in a Confusing World

We need deep fathers. Men who are capable of making wise decisions for and with their children because they understand the ways of Jesus wholeheartedly and can see through the world’s lies. We need to be fathers who help our children navigate this confusing age.

There is a list of men who join David in 1st Chronicles 12, some from Issachar – “men who understood the times and knew what Israel should do”. Here we have men who understand their cultural moment and, because of this, know what direction they should go. I pray the same will be said of us.

The next twenty years will be marked by confusion. The greatest gift we can give our children is clarity.

On the final episode of this first season of the Legacy Podcast, we are joined by Pete Wright from Growing Young Disciples to talk about Raising Kids for Christ in a Confusing World. One way Pete mentions we can give clarity to our children is to use some catechesis, and so in a unique approach to writing an article, I (Andy Lamberton) document my real-time thought process, considering if I should do catechisms with my children.

If you, like me find that a bit stuffy, you’ll find this article interesting.

Should I do Catechisms with my children? And what even does that look like?

When deciding on anything, you first work out your questions. Here are mine: what is a catechism? Am I biased in my opinion? What benefits do I see? How could we fit it into our family life? What do I need to start?

What is a Catechism?

A catechism is a teaching tool using questions and answers. The questions trigger memory; the answers reinforce truth. It is a conversational way of learning. The goal is to ‘learn by heart’; we educate the mind and in time, hope these truths enter our hearts, become the way we view the world, love our neighbours and follow Jesus.

Am I biased in my opinion of Catechisms?

When I was 9, my Sunday school teacher said. “We’re not going to learn the old-fashioned catechisms. We’re going to learn memory verses because God’s Word is better than old catechisms”. This sentence has formed my understanding of what a catechism is—an old thing.

On top of this, I find it a bit stuffy… 

If you know me, you’ll know I love Jesus. But I’m someone whose understanding is catching up with my experience. God has acted in my life. Spoken and restored. Called and guided. Loved and challenged. Transformed and invited. It is often after God has been at work in my life that I begin to understand what He is doing. I then see Him in richer definition. My life has been the joy of discovering God.

So the idea of teaching my children theology about God before they’ve discovered him themselves doesn’t come natural to me. It isn’t in tune with my testimony. And I wonder, if I choose to do catechisms with my children, will it take all the joy out of their journey? I’m scared of making them into Christians who know their right all the time. Yuck!

What’s your leaning?

Are you drawn to using a Catechism to nurture faith, or is this far from your mind? Maybe you would even find all that stuff hard to read; maybe your children would not engage; maybe you think the church should be doing all that jazz. And sure isn’t a wee episode of Bluey before bed easier – and you get cuddles!

However, after talking to Pete, I am going to try doing catechisms with my children. His reasons were compelling.
I’m willing to change.
I think I need to. 
Here’s why… 

What benefits do I see?

  • Our children, as Bible-believing Christians, will be a minority in Ireland, so they, more than I, will need to understand early how the Christian faith fits together.
  • Tim Keller says teaching children catechisms is like giving them buckets which can be filled throughout their life. I like that. A framework for understanding; a spade to dig deep; a wile heap of big buckets to fill with discovery and blessings.
  • It provides face-to-face time for our family.
  • It’s a way I can reinforce what we learn in church.
  • It has stood the test of time as a practice for spiritual formation.
  • It is something for them to fall back on. When life goes pear-shaped, there will be something in their mind, like money in the bank, on which to draw.

How can we fit Catechisms into our family life?

For us, there are two ways I see it working.

  1. As part of our morning routine.
    Our children are all at primary school, and we have breakfast at the same time, around four times each week. Could I do something there?
  2. Linked to church.
    We go to a small church, and the Sunday School consists of three families. Could I suggest we cover a Catechism there and then reinforce it at home? 

You will have other options here, perhaps at bedtime? before movie night? or after church on Sunday?
I’m going to give the mornings a go.

Oh, and I need to talk to my wife about this – always a good idea! I’ll do that tonight!

What do we need to start?

I love the idea of coming up with a few questions for younger children.
Pete had four basic questions for his two-year-old:

  • Who made you? God
  • What else did God make? All things
  • Why did God make you and all things? For His glory
  • Who is Jesus? He’s the king

This is class! But to start, I think I’ll use a resource. I’ve bought a New City Catechism and the Shorter Catechism of the Westminister confession of faith. (Put me out a tenner!) Having flicked through both, I’m going to use the New City Catechism, do a question a week and see how it goes. 

Starting, well… today! 

If you want to know how it’s going, send me an email – andy@legacyfathers.org

 

By Andy Lamberton

Bio:
Andy Lamberton goes to the same church his parents, grandparents and great-grandparents went to. Married to Debbie, they are raising their four children in Donegal with ice-pops for dessert most days. Author of Letters for Exiles: Faithful Living in a Faithless World and director of Legacy, a ministry for fathers from Exodus.

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