Friendship, Sex, and Marriage, I mean… I like all those things! But I struggle to talk about them with my children.
Show notes
Join Andy as he talks with Ed Drew from Faith in Kids about loneliness and value, sex and sexuality, marriage and Mr Rogers.
Chapters
0:00 – 2:36 Introductions
2:36 – 13:47 Transferable Skills
13:47 – 17:03 Loneliness, Friendship and Value
17:03 – 27:31 Sex and Sexuality
27:31 – 37:08 Final Remarks
(Part of our ‘How to’ series)
Guest: Ed Drew
He is the director of Faith in Kids, which seeks to resource children’s and family ministry in the local church. For twelve years, he was the Children’s Worker in South West London. He’s married to Mary, and they have three children. Before all that, he worked as an engineer. Author of Raising Confident Kids in a confusing world.
Host: Andy Lamberton
Andy Lamberton is the director of Legacy. He goes to the same church his parents, grandparents, great and great great-grandparents went to. Married to Debbie, they are raising their four children in Donegal with ice-pops for dessert most days. Author of Letters for Exiles: Faithful Living in a Faithless World.
With guests like Fanta Clarke, Shane Logan, Tim Shiels and Rob Fraser-Binns. These promise to be fascinating evenings of conversation on faith and fatherhood hosted by Andy Lamberton. These are free events for all men. And you’ll get to see a podcast being recorded!
Invite your bros! It’ll be a good night!
More information for each event can be found at the registration links. Book for yourself or a group.
How to Embrace God’s Call to be Fathers to the Fatherless – with Roger Cooke. S3E3
Would you consider fostering?
Every 15 minutes, a child comes into care in the UK. What can we, as the church, do to help? We were delighted to have Roger Cooke, from Home for Good, on the Legacy Podcast. Roger provides a depth of insight which we (Stephen and Andy) found both inspiring and helpful in considering if fostering is something our families can do.
Join us.
Chapters
0:00 – 7:45 Introductions 7:45 – 22:35 Why should we care? 22:35 – 35:32 What does it take? 35:32 – 42:46 Commissioning for Every Father
Today’s Guest Roger Cooke is the right man to help us consider fostering and adoption. He leads the work of Home for Good, who believe we all have a part to play in ensuring every child and young person has the home they need. They work to mobilise the Church in the UK to respond to the needs of children in care. Find out more at homeforgood.org.uk
Andy Lamberton is the director of Legacy. He goes to the same church his parents, grandparents, great and great great-grandparents went to. Married to Debbie, they are raising their four children in Donegal with ice-pops for dessert most days. Author of Letters for Exiles: Faithful Living in a Faithless World.
Stephen Mullan directs the work of Dreamscheme Northern Ireland, a youth work charity that provides support and opportunities to young people growing up in housing estates. He also writes on the subject of youth via his newsletter Rethinking Youth. Stephen is married to Sharon and has two young children.
Life is a million miles an hour. Is your home a haven or do you live in a hurried house? Little of what’s important happens in a rush.
Join Andy Lamberton as he speaks with Kent Evans about helping our children slow down.
Chapters
0:00 – Introduction
3:30 – Helping our children slow down
24:00 – Becoming disciple-making dads
This is the second of our ‘How To’ series. Up next: How to Embrace God’s Call to be Fathers to the Fatherless, with Roger Cooke.
Guest: Kent Evans is executive director of Manhood Journey, and along with his wife, April, has not one, not two, not three, not four, but five sons. Author of Manhood Journey and Wise Guys
Andy Lamberton is the director of Legacy. He goes to the same church his parents, grandparents, great and great great-grandparents went to. Married to Debbie, they are raising their four children in Donegal with ice-pops for dessert most days. Author of Letters for Exiles: Faithful Living in a Faithless World.
Stephen Mullan directs the work of Dreamscheme Northern Ireland, a youth work charity that provides support and opportunities to young people growing up in housing estates. He also writes on the subject of youth via his newsletter Rethinking Youth. Stephen is married to Sharon and has two young children.
Imagine getting to sit in as someone else opens the Bible with their children.
Big thanks to Chase Replogle for giving us the opportunity to do just that with his new podcast. Let’s Talk Bible for Kids (and parents). Join Andy Lamberton as he interviews Chase about family devotions, opening the Bible with our family and growing in Christlikeness as a man.
Our Guest Chase Replogle is the pastor of Bent Oak Church in Springfield, Missouri. Host of two podcasts – the Let’s Talk Bible podcast for kids (and parents) and the Pastor Writer Podcast, on reading, writing and the Christian life. He is author of The 5 Masculine Instincts and enjoys being outdoors with his wife and two kids, sailing, playing the guitar (badly), and quail hunting with his bird dog Millie.”
Chapters 0:00 – 2:50 Introductions 2:50 – 18:00 Opening the Bible with our children 18:00 – 31:53 The 5 Masculine Instincts
This is the first in our ‘How To’ series. Up next: How to Help Your Children Slow Down, with Kent Evans.
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Would your church/men’s group be interested in hosting a live recording of the Legacy Podcast? It’d be craic! Send me an email – andy@legacyfathers.org
Legacy Podcast Hosts
Andy Lamberton is the director of Legacy. He goes to the same church his parents, grandparents, great and great great-grandparents went to. Married to Debbie, they are raising their four children in Donegal with ice-pops for dessert most days. Author of Letters for Exiles: Faithful Living in a Faithless World.
Stephen Mullan directs the work of Dreamscheme Northern Ireland, a youth work charity that provides support and opportunities to young people growing up in housing estates. He also writes on the subject of youth via his newsletter Rethinking Youth. Stephen is married to Sharon and has two young children.
We had one episode on failing as a father. But what about deep failure? This is a heavy conversation.
The last verses of the Old Testament, Malachi 4:5-6 says,
“Behold, I will send you Elijah the prophet before the great and awesome day of the Lord comes. And he will turn the hearts of fathers to their children and the hearts of children to their fathers, lest I come and strike the land with a decree of utter destruction.”
Join us as we take a deep dive into this verse, and speak to a man with extensive experience in helping families who have experienced profound hurt find healing and, where possible, restoration.
Willie was the Assistant Director for ‘Family and Child Care’, and then took early retirement to set up Family Spectrum in 2004.
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We’re taking suggestions for season 3, a ‘How to’ series. – What topics do you think we need to cover to help us fathers disciple our children well? Send me an email – andy@legacyfathers.org
Andy Lamberton is the director of Legacy. He goes to the same church his parents, grandparents, great and great great-grandparents went to. Married to Debbie, they are raising their four children in Donegal with ice-pops for dessert most days. Author of Letters for Exiles: Faithful Living in a Faithless World.
Stephen Mullan directs the work of Dreamscheme Northern Ireland, a youth work charity that provides support and opportunities to young people growing up in housing estates. He also writes on the subject of youth via his newsletter Rethinking Youth. Stephen is married to Sharon and has two young children.
“Something I could never argue with, was the congruance of their lives. They lived their faith. I could never call them hypocrites. And I probably would of liked to!” Join Andy Lamberton as he invites Alf Thompson to share his story.
If your children are walking away from faith, this episode is for you. Alfred Thompson shares with us about the impact of his father.
As they were packing the boot of their car, John Thompson simply invited his grown-up son to read the Gospel of Mark with him. This became the turning point of Alf’s life.
Our thanks to Alf for sharing his story with us and honouring his father.
Fathers, never underestimate the power of re-inviting your children back into faith in Jesus.
Standing on grace, Andy
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We’re taking suggestions for season 3, a ‘How to’ series. – What topics do you think we need to cover to help us fathers disciple our children well? Send me an email – andy@legacyfathers.org
Andy Lamberton is the director of Legacy. He goes to the same church his parents, grandparents, great and great great-grandparents went to. Married to Debbie, they are raising their four children in Donegal with ice-pops for dessert most days. Author of Letters for Exiles: Faithful Living in a Faithless World.
Stephen Mullan directs the work of Dreamscheme Northern Ireland, a youth work charity that provides support and opportunities to young people growing up in housing estates. He also writes on the subject of youth via his newsletter Rethinking Youth. Stephen is married to Sharon and has two young children.
“We want to be fathers who disciple our children. And we want to see our churches bulging with thriving families.” Join Andy and Stephen as they introduce themselves, and Legacy
Have you ever wondered who Andy and Stephen are? What is their story? Meet the hosts of the Legacy podcast.
0:00 – 16:20 – Meet Stephen 16:20 – 28:05 – Meet Andy 28:05 – 36:44 – Legacy’s Story
Between Series 2 and Series 3, we’ve got three solo episodes.
Meet Andy and Stephen
The impact of a father – Alf Thompson’s story
“And he will turn the hearts of fathers” with Willie Paterson
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We’re taking suggestions for season 3, a ‘How to’ series. – What topics do you think we need to cover to help us fathers disciple our children well? Send me an email – andy@legacyfathers.org
Andy Lamberton is the director of Legacy. He goes to the same church his parents, grandparents, great and great great-grandparents went to. Married to Debbie, they are raising their four children in Donegal with ice-pops for dessert most days. Author of Letters for Exiles: Faithful Living in a Faithless World.
Stephen Mullan directs the work of Dreamscheme Northern Ireland, a youth work charity that provides support and opportunities to young people growing up in housing estates. He also writes on the subject of youth via his newsletter Rethinking Youth. Stephen is married to Sharon and has two young children.
“To have a father who delights in knowing and loving them is one of the greatest blessings any girl can have.” In the third and final ‘square-table’ conversation, Andy and Stephen are joined by Jonny McKane and Evan Reid, to talk about raising daughters today.
Join us on the Legacy Podcast as we are joined by Jonny McKane and Evan Reid. Two normal fathers who love their daughters well. I was ministered to by these men as we recorded. Listening back, the coals of my heart are stoked afresh. Stephen and I were both taken by their wisdom. We hope you enjoy it.
It’s the third and final round table of Season Two:
Hopes and fears as your daughter grows from girl to woman
How a father-daughter relationship changes over time
Journeying with the emotions of your daughter
Not being scared to speak
Cherishing her now while preparing her for the future
Reflection from Stephen Mullan
We can sometimes fight against the reality that our daughters will one day become women and will leave home. As Andy says near the end of this episode: “I don’t want my daughter to change!”
Who relates? I know I want my one and half year old daughter to forever stay small, cute and slightly squidgy!
At the heart of this feeling is a mix of love and joy. Yet, what I learned in this conversation was that the loving, joyful relationship between a father and his daughter is foundational and formative in her journey to womanhood.
Of course, there is much we need to think about as we raise our girls (and we cover a lot in this episode), but never underestimate the place of joy.
To have a father who delights in knowing and loving them is one of the greatest blessings any girl can have.
Two Songs for fathers with daughters
Be kind to yourself – by Andrew Peterson A song from a father to a teenage daughter. I challenge any father to watch this video and have dry eyes at the end. V2 ”I know it’s hard to hear it when the anger in your spirit is pointed like an arrow to your chest. When the voices in your mind are anything but kind, and you can’t believe your father knows best. I love you just the way that you are, I love the way He made your precious heart. Be kind to yourself”
Banks – By NEEDTOBREATHE A song about caring without controlling. Chorus: ”I want to hold you close, but never hold you back. Like the banks of a river”
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We’re taking suggestions for season 3 – What topics do you think we need to cover to help us fathers disciple our children well? send me an email – andy@legacyfathers.org
Andy Lamberton is the director of Legacy. He goes to the same church his parents, grandparents, great and great great-grandparents went to. Married to Debbie, they are raising their four children in Donegal with ice-pops for dessert most days. Author of Letters for Exiles: Faithful Living in a Faithless World.
Stephen Mullan directs the work of Dreamscheme Northern Ireland, a youth work charity that provides support and opportunities to young people growing up in housing estates. He also writes on the subject of youth via his newsletter Rethinking Youth. Stephen is married to Sharon and has two young children.
“Fatherhood is a journey punctuated by moments”. Paul Paynter
Join us on the Legacy Podcast as we are joined by four intentional fathers David McGinty, David Penney, Paul Paynter, Paul Decock as we have a round table on Raising Sons Today. Stephen and I found it a rich conversation.
If someone famous tweeted the book of Proverbs verse by verse (a father’s advice to his son), how do you think it would be received in today’s world? My gut… I think the world is starving for wholesome, tested wisdom. And I wonder if Christianity has more to say on this than we let on.
#toxicmasculinity has 2.3 billion views on TikTok. With a whole variety of activities being deemed “toxic”. Some of these posts are just boyish behaviour (the hashtag being something of a joke). Some are abhorrent. TikTok, however, has added its own caption, “It must end now ☢️💪❌” on any post that includes the hashtag. So is everything manly toxic?
It’s a confusing time for boys to become men.
Fathers, we are one of the only sane voices, who can guide our sons into adulthood.
In the introduction to The Intentional Father by Jon Tyson he says:
Right now, it’s normal to entrust your son’s development to the school system or sports team. It’s normal to entrust your son’s discipleship to a youth pastor. It’s normal to just “wing it”.
But what if there was a new normal?
What if it was normal for fathers to put their foot down and say, “I’m not sitting on the sidelines for another day of my son’s life.”? What if it was normal for fathers to step up and play the primary role in their son’s spiritual formation? What if it was normal to be passionate about getting it right and unwilling to let the world raise our sons?
Challenge – Think of your son/s and skim-read the first seven chapters of Proverbs. Then pray.
Podcast
Join us for our second round table for Season Two:
Disciple Making Fathers – Round Table
Raising Sons Today – Round Table
Raising Daughters Today – Round Table
This is a wild ride and we talk about:
raising sons in the digital world
lies and honesty
dangers and duties
seizing moments
vision, intention and means ‘VIM’
affection, authority and atmosphere
prioritising worship
loving your wife
the thousand-mile stare
what boys need
modelling faith
challenging boys
should I give my son a phone?
what’s the difference between raising a son or a daughter
words for a father whose son has rebelled
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We’re taking suggestions for season 3 – What topics do you think we need to cover to help us fathers disciple our children well? send me an email – andy@legacyfathers.org
Andy Lamberton is the director of Legacy. He goes to the same church his parents, grandparents and great-grandparents went to. Married to Debbie, they are raising their four children in Donegal with ice-pops for dessert most days. Author of Letters for Exiles: Faithful Living in a Faithless World.
