We can end up giving our children everything except ourselves.
Join Andy Lamberton as he kicks off a new season of the Legacy Podcast with six things he’s learned from talking to 1,000 fathers. From going to bed at the same time as your wife to protecting family time and getting a handle on technology, Andy reflects on the everyday choices that shape our homes.
Practical encouragement to give your attention to the people you love and ask God to lead you as their father.
Recorded live at New Wine Ireland, Andy Lamberton is joined by Rev. Tommy MacNeil and Bishop David McClay for a conversation on faith, fatherhood and the work of God in ordinary homes. Using the life of Abraham as a guide, they explore how he becomes God’s friend before he becomes a father, why fathers matter more than we think, and how a vision for revival looks like a Bible on every kitchen table.
To see revival in our homes…
God delights to work through ordinary families. Families like yours.
Andy, Tommy and David discuss:
Growing in friendship with God.
Building homes centred on Christ.
Simple ways to begin family worship.
Encouragement for fathers who feel inadequate.
Caring for the fatherless in an under-fathered society.
Lessons from the Hebrides Revival.
The altars of the heart, the home, the church and the region.
Guests
Bishop David McClay serves as Bishop of Down and Dromore. Before becoming bishop in 2020, he served for many years as rector of Willowfield Parish Church in Belfast. Raised on a farm in County Donegal, David is passionate about servant leadership, evangelism, discipleship and seeing churches flourish in mission.
Rev. Tommy MacNeil has served alongside his wife Donna in ministry since 2000. After ministering in Barvas, where the Hebrides Revival took place from 1949-52, they moved to Martin’s Memorial Church in Stornoway in 2006. Tommy has become widely known for his Bible teaching and his passion to see genuine spiritual revival.
Host
Andy Lamberton is the Director of Legacy, a ministry helping churches see faith and fatherhood thrive. Andy is a speaker and the author of Letters for Exiles: Faithful Living in a Faithless World, and lives in County Donegal with his wife Debbie and their five children.
We had one episode on failing as a father. But what about deep failure? This is a heavy conversation.
The last verses of the Old Testament, Malachi 4:5-6 says,
“Behold, I will send you Elijah the prophet before the great and awesome day of the Lord comes. And he will turn the hearts of fathers to their children and the hearts of children to their fathers, lest I come and strike the land with a decree of utter destruction.”
Join us as we take a deep dive into this verse, and speak to a man with extensive experience in helping families who have experienced profound hurt find healing and, where possible, restoration.
Willie was the Assistant Director for ‘Family and Child Care’, and then took early retirement to set up Family Spectrum in 2004.
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We’re taking suggestions for season 3, a ‘How to’ series. – What topics do you think we need to cover to help us fathers disciple our children well? Send me an email – andy@legacyfathers.org
Andy Lamberton is the director of Legacy. He goes to the same church his parents, grandparents, great and great great-grandparents went to. Married to Debbie, they are raising their four children in Donegal with ice-pops for dessert most days. Author of Letters for Exiles: Faithful Living in a Faithless World.
Stephen Mullan directs the work of Dreamscheme Northern Ireland, a youth work charity that provides support and opportunities to young people growing up in housing estates. He also writes on the subject of youth via his newsletter Rethinking Youth. Stephen is married to Sharon and has two young children.
“We want to be fathers who disciple our children. And we want to see our churches bulging with thriving families.” Join Andy and Stephen as they introduce themselves, and Legacy
Have you ever wondered who Andy and Stephen are? What is their story? Meet the hosts of the Legacy podcast.
0:00 – 16:20 – Meet Stephen 16:20 – 28:05 – Meet Andy 28:05 – 36:44 – Legacy’s Story
Between Series 2 and Series 3, we’ve got three solo episodes.
Meet Andy and Stephen
The impact of a father – Alf Thompson’s story
“And he will turn the hearts of fathers” with Willie Paterson
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We’re taking suggestions for season 3, a ‘How to’ series. – What topics do you think we need to cover to help us fathers disciple our children well? Send me an email – andy@legacyfathers.org
Andy Lamberton is the director of Legacy. He goes to the same church his parents, grandparents, great and great great-grandparents went to. Married to Debbie, they are raising their four children in Donegal with ice-pops for dessert most days. Author of Letters for Exiles: Faithful Living in a Faithless World.
Stephen Mullan directs the work of Dreamscheme Northern Ireland, a youth work charity that provides support and opportunities to young people growing up in housing estates. He also writes on the subject of youth via his newsletter Rethinking Youth. Stephen is married to Sharon and has two young children.
“To have a father who delights in knowing and loving them is one of the greatest blessings any girl can have.” In the third and final ‘square-table’ conversation, Andy and Stephen are joined by Jonny McKane and Evan Reid, to talk about raising daughters today.
Join us on the Legacy Podcast as we are joined by Jonny McKane and Evan Reid. Two normal fathers who love their daughters well. I was ministered to by these men as we recorded. Listening back, the coals of my heart are stoked afresh. Stephen and I were both taken by their wisdom. We hope you enjoy it.
It’s the third and final round table of Season Two:
Hopes and fears as your daughter grows from girl to woman
How a father-daughter relationship changes over time
Journeying with the emotions of your daughter
Not being scared to speak
Cherishing her now while preparing her for the future
Reflection from Stephen Mullan
We can sometimes fight against the reality that our daughters will one day become women and will leave home. As Andy says near the end of this episode: “I don’t want my daughter to change!”
Who relates? I know I want my one and half year old daughter to forever stay small, cute and slightly squidgy!
At the heart of this feeling is a mix of love and joy. Yet, what I learned in this conversation was that the loving, joyful relationship between a father and his daughter is foundational and formative in her journey to womanhood.
Of course, there is much we need to think about as we raise our girls (and we cover a lot in this episode), but never underestimate the place of joy.
To have a father who delights in knowing and loving them is one of the greatest blessings any girl can have.
Two Songs for fathers with daughters
Be kind to yourself – by Andrew Peterson A song from a father to a teenage daughter. I challenge any father to watch this video and have dry eyes at the end. V2 ”I know it’s hard to hear it when the anger in your spirit is pointed like an arrow to your chest. When the voices in your mind are anything but kind, and you can’t believe your father knows best. I love you just the way that you are, I love the way He made your precious heart. Be kind to yourself”
Banks – By NEEDTOBREATHE A song about caring without controlling. Chorus: ”I want to hold you close, but never hold you back. Like the banks of a river”
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We’re taking suggestions for season 3 – What topics do you think we need to cover to help us fathers disciple our children well? send me an email – andy@legacyfathers.org
Andy Lamberton is the director of Legacy. He goes to the same church his parents, grandparents, great and great great-grandparents went to. Married to Debbie, they are raising their four children in Donegal with ice-pops for dessert most days. Author of Letters for Exiles: Faithful Living in a Faithless World.
Stephen Mullan directs the work of Dreamscheme Northern Ireland, a youth work charity that provides support and opportunities to young people growing up in housing estates. He also writes on the subject of youth via his newsletter Rethinking Youth. Stephen is married to Sharon and has two young children.
